Marriage is both a social
and legal contract. It requires the mutual consent of both parties that are
willing to get married. It mustn’t and shouldn’t be forced as this will not
make the marriage a successful one in the long run. Marriage will change a lot
of things in your life including the finances in many ways. The ability to
adapt to these changes by the husband and wife or couples will determine the
success and longevity of such union. Marriage lays the foundation for creating
a family for yourself to whom you are and will be responsible. It is a lifetime
commitment with little or no option to opt-out except in cases of divorce due
to unredeemable circumstances. It helps you with the opportunity of being
selfless. Selflessness in the sense that you learn how to put your family first
and cater to them in all situations. All countries, religions, and tribes have
their respective ways of conducting the marriage. The similarities between the
ways that it is centered on the unification of two partners in becoming
husband and wife that co-habit peacefully.
Different questions have
been raised and asked concerning marriage in the past, presently, and also will
be asked in the future. The questions are centered on the meaning of marriage, the
purpose of marriage and the reasons why people get married. While the primary
purpose of marriage is companionship and mutual comfort, the following are some
of the reasons why people get married in the world
1. Companionship
Getting married to
someone you love will provide you with the feeling of having a companion. You
will have someone you can communicate your feelings. Companionship in marriage
will provide with the opportunity of solving your problems easily as the couples
will strive to make progress and find a lasting solution to each other problems or
trials. Your level of trust in your partner will increase when you get married
to him or her leaving you with no doubt about your exposing your secrets or
talking about your goals and aspirations in life.
2. Love
One of the biggest
reasons for marriage and the key facilitator of the process of getting
married is the power of love. You can’t
get married to someone you hate as such marriage will only be heading for doom.
Getting married to someone you love shows that your partner is dependable,
selfless, caring, and possess all the rich qualities of a partner. Although no
one is perfect in creation, getting married to someone you love means that you
are willing to let go of the downsides and work together towards a great
future. Love is the pillar that upholds a marriage. It’s what keeps the couples
going through the trying period. Love is a good reason why people get married
and are willing to stay married.
3. Commitment
People get married to get
committed to someone and have a long-lasting purpose. Commitment in marriage will
enhance the life of such marriage making it look like an easy ride at the end
of the whole process when it isn’t Being committed will make you more
responsible and accountable for your actions. Commitment will teach the act of
reciprocating and being selfless. When you get married, you are rightly and
willingly getting committed to your partner and the journey as well.
4. Family security
Marriage provides
security for the couples. You are always watching each other back and
protecting each other always. The security in marriage becomes stronger and
more important when you start having kids. The act of having kids is another
reason for marriage. Marriage gives to you a family to secure.
5. Legal Status
Marriage is a legal
contract and many marriages nowadays have legal backing, therefore, providing some
sense of security for the husband and wife. The legal status of marriage will
ensure the fulfillment of responsibilities by each partner and also provide an
avenue for settlement during disagreements or family issues.
6. Religious Belief
Another reason why
people get married is due to religious beliefs. The belief that getting married
is ordained by God for human beings is held across most of the religions especially Islam and Christianity.
Although there are
reasons why people get married, there are also reasons for avoiding marriage or
probably don’t want to get married
1. Avoiding
responsibility
Many people avoid
marriage to the rings of commitment and responsibilities. Many
of these people are self-centered and are not ready to trade their
convenience, time, and comfort for any other thing or share them with another
person.
2. Bad Relationship Experience
Bad experiences during
relationships are one of the reasons why some people avoid marriage for so long
while some do not get married at all. The fear of being rejected after
commitment is a risk they don’t want to take again in life.
3. Personal Belief
The belief that you don’t
need to be committed to anyone and the belief that marriage isn’t for everyone
are some of the reasons why some people avoid marriage today.
4. Fear
The fear of divorce, the
fear of commitment, and also the fear of marriage are other reasons why some do
avoid marriage.
5. Being single for too
long
Many people have been so
singled up to the level that there is a belief that they need no other person to
live their life maximally. There is danger in being single for too long as you
will get too comfortable with the lifestyle and avoid marriage if not at all
cost.
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I have two friends who have gotten married really quickly, as in, knowing each other less than a year. I think they were afraid of getting married after thirty, which I think is an irrational fear. But anyway, hopefully it works out.
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